Shadow Work in Relationships

Stop managing behavior. Start tracking orientation. Relational drama is rarely unique or personal: it shows how we all play out energetic patterns. Why Do Couples Keep Repeating the Same Fights? You know how everyone repeats, “It’s not about the dishes/dirty socks?” or some other cliché about couples stuck in the same fight? This is why. As long as we focus on the specific details of these issues, we miss out on the underlying energetic tension that drives it all. No wonder c

What couples refer to as their incompatibilities actually holds the key to their greatest relational potential. This is one of the greatest misconceptions in relationships. The self-help world is full of advice on how to "spot red flags" early on to avoid mismatches in love. While it is important to recognize dysfunctional patterns and hold strong boundaries in relationships, our hardest challenges actually hide the greatest gifts. We just need to learn to tap into these diff