Attachment

Stop managing behavior. Start tracking orientation. Relational drama is rarely unique or personal: it shows how we all play out energetic patterns. Why Do Couples Keep Repeating the Same Fights? You know how everyone repeats, “It’s not about the dishes/dirty socks?” or some other cliché about couples stuck in the same fight? This is why. As long as we focus on the specific details of these issues, we miss out on the underlying energetic tension that drives it all. No wonder c

Relationships (and life itself, perhaps!) require that we learn to explore the delicate balance between tension & resonance... Most of us long for ease, harmony, and predictability. But the deeper truth is that intimacy is shaped just as much by friction as by flow. The interplay between these two forces is what keeps a relationship alive, directional, and meaningful. At their core, these "values" are opposed feminine and masculine orientations. Polarity work helps us put tho

Couples can’t talk or think their way out of an unconscious pattern. They might say, “I want you to trust me,” but their energy communicates something entirely different: “I am not grounded, so I cannot hold you.” This is the core problem that couples face in their attempt to tackle issues, and many forms of therapeutic practice are not helpful. Couples often try to fix unconscious relational patterns with conscious communication tools or with a more detailed analysis of thei

How do archetypes influence our identity and relationships? My approach to relational polarity is rooted in my long-term fascination with the overlap between our unconscious (as it articulates itself through stories and archetypal structures), and our conscious engagement with these narratives. This interaction, I believe, is at the core of the formation of Self. We often think of reading as a "passive" pastime, but it actually shapes our sense of Self, and as such is at the